Reflect back what each person said verbatim, no editorializing, no opinions. "What I heard you say is… is that what you meant?" This makes people feel heard even when the decision doesn't go their way.
People feel endowed to the decision, they see their input reflected in it. They also see the true spread of disagreement on the team, which makes accepting a non-preferred outcome much easier.
"There is no such thing as a long feedback loop. The way you choose to shorten the feedback loop is to say: what are the things that are correlated with the outcome that I eventually desire?"
Example in investing: you can't know in 10 years if a company will IPO, but you can measure leading indicators now, team quality, early retention, revenue shape.
Ask future-you: "How do I really think I'm going to think about this in 10 years?" The focusing effect makes present feelings enormous. Time travel shrinks them to their true size.
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